Totally unrelated but you should watch “He’s just not into you”. It fully depicts how we as women forget to take charge when we’re in love (ps: friendship and family include)!
But you’re 100% right. We’re not the substitute actors in our stories, we’re the MAIN CHARACTERS and it’s time we finally understand that
Thank you for this beautiful piece. I felt every word… too often I position(ed) myself as the supporting act of my own life. Probably because I think I’m equally afraid of succeeding and failing and how it will impact me.
But 2024 really broke me because ... I really felt like I lost agency and was constantly under pressure of external events…. So yeah this work of yours is the reminder I needed to be the leading lady
This was recommended to me by a tiktoker lol, it came at the right timing. I'm currently coming to the realization that I have been putting others before myself for various reasons and also that I keep letting life come at me and not from me. This makes me realize it all needs to end. Thank you for sharing !
Congratulations on graduating, that’s huge. I remember the world looking more colorful, my shoulders feeling lighter after graduation.
I’m 44 now, and feel like I just learned an important lesson from someone (who I assume is) half my age. In my 20s, even though I was working full time, I’d regularly spend a whole day on myself just kinda doing whatever felt right at the moment. But then in my 30s and 40s: marriage, career, family, buying shit I didn’t need, you know how it goes. Every day felt like trying to meet someone else’s expectations, trying to make someone else happy.
And it worked, I think I did make other people happy. But also more dependent on me. So now I’m trying to be more like you, at least one day a week. Really great post
Loved hearing your thoughts on this! I think it's interesting how the responsibility of being a person extends as we get older, becoming an umbrella for others, even more so without our realising it.
My mom is in her late fifties, and we're all leaving home now and sometimes I see how she looks at us, as though unsure of what to do and where to place all her attention. I've been encouraging her to channel it inwards, at least one day a week, like you. Thank you, David.
I share the same sentiments towards Jude Law. I think that he is such a pretty thing! I also thought the movie wasn’t so great but the friendship with Arthur was so beautiful to see.
Thank you for this. You capture my heart every time you write.
i was thinking about this 3 days ago, and decided to finally be the leading lady in my own life. thank you for this beautiful piece, and for kinda explaining deeper meanings of jasper, LA, etc... this is one of my favorite movies, but your piece made it 10x more beautiful 🤍
Congrats on graduating! I do enjoy that movie once in a while but totally wiped out that line from my memory. What a great one! Thanks for sharing. And I agree, the friendship between the two is one of the strongest plot lines in the movie. As good-looking as Jude Law is, his romance with Cameron Diaz does nothing for me since it's just... they're both very strongly attracted to each other from the getgo for some reason, and that's... that's it lol that's great! But what am I supposed to get out of that emotionally
I love this piece!!! The only thing I disagree with is that the Holiday is totally one of the best rom coms of all time, its my comfort movie for life!!!
Thanks for this. I often find myself giving in to the pressures around me—and sometimes, the pressure even comes from within. But the real struggle is often not having the courage to take the steps that would actually ease that pressure. I think you just answered the question, Treasure: once the decision is made, just take action.
Hey I feel like I found this just the right time when i really needed it,your words are so perfectly articulated,i have loved this so much,it's so inspiring.
I don't know, something about it didn't connect emotionally with me. I can appreciate the storytelling, characters, and everything inbetween, but I found it boring to go through.
Totally unrelated but you should watch “He’s just not into you”. It fully depicts how we as women forget to take charge when we’re in love (ps: friendship and family include)!
But you’re 100% right. We’re not the substitute actors in our stories, we’re the MAIN CHARACTERS and it’s time we finally understand that
Adding that to my watchlist. And yes, we are!
Thank you for this beautiful piece. I felt every word… too often I position(ed) myself as the supporting act of my own life. Probably because I think I’m equally afraid of succeeding and failing and how it will impact me.
But 2024 really broke me because ... I really felt like I lost agency and was constantly under pressure of external events…. So yeah this work of yours is the reminder I needed to be the leading lady
Sweet dreamer, I hope you're able to lasso your dreams and pull them into reality. You can always come back here if you need to.
I want to give this one million like. Loved every part of it.
Thank you for reading!
This was recommended to me by a tiktoker lol, it came at the right timing. I'm currently coming to the realization that I have been putting others before myself for various reasons and also that I keep letting life come at me and not from me. This makes me realize it all needs to end. Thank you for sharing !
you're welcome, i'm rooting for you!
Congratulations on graduating, that’s huge. I remember the world looking more colorful, my shoulders feeling lighter after graduation.
I’m 44 now, and feel like I just learned an important lesson from someone (who I assume is) half my age. In my 20s, even though I was working full time, I’d regularly spend a whole day on myself just kinda doing whatever felt right at the moment. But then in my 30s and 40s: marriage, career, family, buying shit I didn’t need, you know how it goes. Every day felt like trying to meet someone else’s expectations, trying to make someone else happy.
And it worked, I think I did make other people happy. But also more dependent on me. So now I’m trying to be more like you, at least one day a week. Really great post
Loved hearing your thoughts on this! I think it's interesting how the responsibility of being a person extends as we get older, becoming an umbrella for others, even more so without our realising it.
My mom is in her late fifties, and we're all leaving home now and sometimes I see how she looks at us, as though unsure of what to do and where to place all her attention. I've been encouraging her to channel it inwards, at least one day a week, like you. Thank you, David.
I share the same sentiments towards Jude Law. I think that he is such a pretty thing! I also thought the movie wasn’t so great but the friendship with Arthur was so beautiful to see.
Thank you for this. You capture my heart every time you write.
*swoons* so romantic. thank you for reading!
i was thinking about this 3 days ago, and decided to finally be the leading lady in my own life. thank you for this beautiful piece, and for kinda explaining deeper meanings of jasper, LA, etc... this is one of my favorite movies, but your piece made it 10x more beautiful 🤍
Congrats on graduating! I do enjoy that movie once in a while but totally wiped out that line from my memory. What a great one! Thanks for sharing. And I agree, the friendship between the two is one of the strongest plot lines in the movie. As good-looking as Jude Law is, his romance with Cameron Diaz does nothing for me since it's just... they're both very strongly attracted to each other from the getgo for some reason, and that's... that's it lol that's great! But what am I supposed to get out of that emotionally
I love this piece!!! The only thing I disagree with is that the Holiday is totally one of the best rom coms of all time, its my comfort movie for life!!!
Congratulations on graduating, i loved this so much💕
Thanks for this. I often find myself giving in to the pressures around me—and sometimes, the pressure even comes from within. But the real struggle is often not having the courage to take the steps that would actually ease that pressure. I think you just answered the question, Treasure: once the decision is made, just take action.
https://open.substack.com/pub/afwl12177427/p/consumed-by-love-shattered-by-lies?r=5fh6yr&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=post_stats
Hey I feel like I found this just the right time when i really needed it,your words are so perfectly articulated,i have loved this so much,it's so inspiring.
I love this article so much! I gave me a different view in life.
yay, that's wonderful.
Yes I am daddy has to be the best line in movie history. Loved reading this. I’m glad you’re taking time for yourself Tres❤️
what line was that? can't remember it. thank you my darling!
When Amanda goes to Graham’s house for the first time and meets his daughters at the door
ohhhhh. they were so cute.
Why didn’t you like Wicked?
I don't know, something about it didn't connect emotionally with me. I can appreciate the storytelling, characters, and everything inbetween, but I found it boring to go through.